So here's this one.
Okay, So I don't really understand why some people take so long to "check" their schedules. Like, I'd be like, "Hey, our group is planning on grabbing lunch on Thursday, would you be able to come?" and they'd be like, "Yeah I'll check when I get home" and then they don't, of course, and I ask again and they're like, "I think I can, I don't really know."
I don't understand.
Like... you either are free... or you aren't... and if you aren't... then that's okay, please just tell me so I won't have to waste time waiting on you and planning for you anymore.
I don't know if it's that people don't keep calendars on their phones or anything else where they can write down which dates and times they are unavailable... because calendars are really useful, literally, just put in what day you have something, and just pull it up, and if there's nothing planned, then you're free and you can say, "Yeah, I'm available."
So I'm not sure why people don't do that.
Also... when people don't pull through with their promises, or just make empty promises on a whim... for instance, I say, "Hey, it would be cool to get a group to go kayaking next Saturday" and people say, "Yes!! We should for sure!!" and then, once the time rolls around and we're trying to figure out a time that works for everyone, they whip out the "Oh I don't really know when I'm free" or "I don't think my mom will let me ride into the city without a parent driving"... things that totally should have been detected as potential issues at the start of the entire thing.
I guess... don't tell me, "Yeah, I'm in on that!" if you're not. You're not being polite, you're getting hopes up and wasting my time and effort. If you aren't up for it, just say so at the start. Don't worry about hurting my feelings - you won't, you're not THAT important.
